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Video – Attorney Bill Leininger Answers If Divorce Mediation Ever Saves The Marriage

Video – Attorney Bill Leininger Answers If Divorce Mediation Ever Saves The Marriage

Ray Hrdlicka – Host – Attorneys.Media

They’re coming to you, obviously, because of an emotional conflict situation where they decided to part ways. Have you found out that or have you experienced this? They sit down, they start talking about it, and then all of a sudden realize we can resolve those conflicts.

Bill Leininger – Divorce Mediation Attorney – Richmond County, NY

Yes, I have happy, happy times, generally a couple times a year, where people will decide. And I will bring it up. Divorce mediators almost never bring it up.

See, divorce lawyers at the first session have an ethical obligation to explore the possibility of meeting the husband or the wife. Is there any possibility if I ever send you to a priest or a pastor or an imam or a rabbi, whether you could try to save the marriage.

Ray Hrdlicka – Host – Attorneys.Media

Wait a minute, wait a minute, I’m interrupting. You said you have an ethical obligation. Is that, because that’s the first time I’ve ever heard of this.

Bill Leininger – Divorce Mediation Attorney – Richmond County, NY

Really?

Ray Hrdlicka – Host – Attorneys.Media

Yeah.

Bill Leininger – Divorce Mediation Attorney – Richmond County, NY

Every matrimonial attorney… I’m licensed in New York, New Jersey, and Florida, in all three states. That’s the case, I think it’s the case in all 50 states. You have an ethical obligation to explore the possibility for the public good to see whether or not the marriage could be saved.

Ray Hrdlicka – Host – Attorneys.Media

Well, I haven’t got divorced, so I don’t know that, that’s why I’m asking.

Bill Leininger – Divorce Mediation Attorney – Richmond County, NY


It’s also the way you talk. When I talk about children, I’ll use, are you concerned about minimizing the harm to the kids that God gave you? We sometimes will talk about, what epitaph would you like on your headstone in the cemetery or in the mausoleum?

Would you want to say, I hate my father because he was the biggest MF in the world, he hurt us and just wanted to hurt mommy? Or is it going to say, no, mommy really loved us or daddy really loved us and thank you for putting us first in your divorce. I know it was painful for you too, but at least we were spared the hurt of that divorce.


So yeah, I frequently bring in a picture of a headstone, and we type in different things. Which way would you like to be thought of? And sometimes they say, you know, I guess you’re right. I guess the four children that God gave us are not four library books that we check in and check out. No, I said, you’re going to have to account to God for the job you did raising those kids, okay?

So, when they think about it that way, some of the nonsense, you know, look, you want to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend, then have the decency to declare the marriage over. Do it in a nice way, don’t serve the person on Valentine’s Day, don’t tell your kids on Christmas Eve.

I mean, there’s so many mean, cruel things that I’ve seen over the years.

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The Mediation offices of William J. Leininger, JD specializes exclusively in divorce mediation services. We are proudly one of the few practices in New York to do so. Our sole focus on divorce mediation issues helps us serve our clients better, and they feel comfortable relying on our extensive knowledge and experience in this one specialized field. 

We help couples through the complicated separation and divorce process to create an agreement on parenting and/or financial issues in a calm and caring manner. We break down an overwhelming experience into smaller, more manageable steps. Mr. Leininger offers his clients a better divorce –more affordable and much faster — than stressful divorce litigation. In our specialized divorce mediation practice, we help our clients make important life decisions for their future. 

Our Law Firm was founded by attorney William J. Leininger in 1981. Mr. Leininger is a native New Yorker who graduated from Regis High School in Manhattan and St. Francis College in Brooklyn.  In 1974, he graduated from Fordham Law School with the rank of #1 in his Evening Division. He was admitted to the New York Bar in 1975 and was subsequently admitted to the Bars of New Jersey and Florida. Mr. Leininger has appeared on the Phil Donahue Show, the Sally Jessy Raphael Show, the Today Show on NBC, the CBS Morning Show, and other national television and radio programs, and has lectured on Divorce for over 40 years. Mr. Leininger became a certified Divorce Mediator in 1994. Since then, he has mediated over 850 cases to completion. We believe that he is one of the most experienced attorney divorce mediators who mediates online with New York residents getting divorced.

 

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